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Spice Up Your Marriage…in Two Seconds (Literally)

April 21, 2016 8:04 pm0 comments

Google “how to spice up your marriage” and you’ll find all sorts of lists including helpful hints like:

  • plan a weekend getaway
  • schedule a sex night
  • role-play with each other
  • be spontaneous
  • sleep in on a Saturday (what I would give!!!)

But here’s some good news for those of you who don’t have the time or the energy (or the babysitters or the money) to put these into action. There’s a much more organic way to to start feeling closer to your main squeeze, and it literally takes two seconds. Ready?

Here it is: Turn on some music. That’s it. Then throw out that sex schedule because you’ll be jumping on top each other whether it’s Hump Day or not.

I first read about this new study done by Sonos, Apple, and a neuroscientist in Fast Company. To determine the effects of music on people at home, the researchers installed speakers, controllers, and cameras in 30 homes for two weeks. During the first week, participants were instructed to listen to no music. But in the second week, the floodgates opened and they were told to play whatever they liked, whenever they liked…

The results were pretty cool. According to the article:

“When music is playing at home, people become physically closer. The average distance between household members decreased by 12% during the in-home study. In the U.S., housemates (usually family members), spent four and a half more hours together with music playing than without it. With music on, people were 33% more likely to cook together and 85% more likely to invite people over. They were 15% more likely to laugh together and 18% more likely to utter the words ‘I love you.’ People also have sex more, thanks to music. In Sonos’s initial survey, couples reported 66% more intimacy when music is playing. And indeed, the in-home experiment found couples spending 37% more “awake time” in bed. You know what that means.”

Not bad, right? I mean, what have you got to lose?

Since I read this article, I’ve made a concerted effort to have music going at home, and the results have proven true. Even better, I’ve found that my kids seem happier and more likely to play independently and peacefully when music is on.

For the most part, we’ve been listening to Pandora or Spotify. Some of my favorite, family-friendly stations are:

  • Weekend brunch: Norah Jones, Ernest Ranglin, Jack Johnson
  • Playtime + Chores: Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros, Bishop Allen, Fun, Bob Marley, CCR
  • Dinnertime: Gotan Project, Joshua Redman, Miles Davis
  • After the kids are down to bed: Diana Krall, Brazilian Soul, Ray LaMontagne

But really, play whatever you like and let the music have its effect…